Have you ever wondered what happens after all of those fairy tales marriages? What do Cinderella, Sleeping Beauty, Snow White, Rapunzel, and all other beauties and their charming princes do to make to make the happily-ever-after work out.
There’s no exact formula for a great relationship. So, what actually makes us happy couples? We don’t need gems, bling, cash, and all other worldly valuables to stay content. There are little little things we do every day that are capable of making us joyous.
Here I bring to you 10 habits that you could make a part of your daily life and have yourself fall into the happy couple category.
1. Communication
Communicating is a form of bonding. Having a real conversation at least once a day is enough to wipe away any form of misunderstanding. If you are bothered about something or have an objection to something your partner is doing, talk.
- Share common interest.
Sharing some common interests (not all) with your partner is a sign of healthy relationship. Happy couples tend to enjoy each other’s company no matter what they are doing. Let’s take cooking as an example.
- Spare time for each other.
With a fast paced life, it is hard to find spare time for personal entertainment. Why don’t you take at least half an hour from your busy schedule, and utilize it? You can meet up for lunch rendezvous, or go for a grocery date. - Remind them that they are loved.
Expressing “I Love You” all the time may seem monotonous to you, but that’s not true. I call these the “magic words.” Uttering the magic words twice a day is sufficient, especially before going to work, and before hitting the sack. You and your partner know how much you care and love each other.
- Don’t socialise when with each other.
Most of your time is spent at work. The other time is spent doing miscellaneous works, including eating and sleeping. So whatever leftover time you have, utilize it for each other. Stop browsing the internet, socializing in all respects, and simply hit the power button. Switch off your phones, and be connected with your partner face to face. You’ll love it! - Plan your futures together.
Planning your futures can take two forms. One, you sit down with calendars, calculators, and note pads. Two, you have a deep and meaningful conversations on future plans for your lives together. For example, happy couples have a custom of planning everything together, regardless of how trivial the matter is. - Listen to them.
Men are naturally problem solvers. When we hear about an issue we are compelled to come up with a suggestion or solution. When a woman vents to you, that’s not always what she’s looking for. She wants you to simply listen and at least make an attempt to understand. She doesn’t want you to give her the answer, but the support she needs to figure it out on her own. Therefore its always a better idea to lend an ear to your partner.
- Celebrate each other’s successes
Do you smile when your partner comes home with a pat on the back from his boss or nudges his golf handicap down a point or two? Good, because the way you receive your significant other’s exciting news may be even more important than how you react during a crisis. In a study of 79 couples, partners who shared excitement for each other’s achievements (“Your hard work is paying off” versus “Can you handle that responsibility?” in response to a promotion, for example) had the most satisfying relationships. - Don’t forget to ask about their day.
How was your day, hon? Though it sounds like a cliché, but if this nightly ritual has fallen off the radar after years of your relationship, consider bringing it back. Sharing this little chat every night really can improve your relationship. It has been found that couples who discuss recent positive events with each other feel happier the next day, with increased feelings of intimacy and connection to their partners.
- Make trust and forgiveness your default mode.
If and when they have a disagreement or argument, and if they can’t resolve it, happy couples default to trusting and forgiving rather than distrusting and begrudging.
